Wednesday, February 26, 2025

Birdbox: Beginning the School Year Blindfolded - February 26, 2025

 



“Uuummm…why do we need a blindfold for the back to school faculty meeting?”


I could see the fear and terror in her eyes as she asked. A sinister feeling began bubbling up throughout my body, fermenting in my gut. My legs became shaky with excitement. I knew that I had her, the anticipation, the trepidation, was eating at her, and as much as she was looking forward to the start of our 24/25 school year, she was dreading those first hours together. 


As a sly half smile began to rise towards my right ear, I finally responded as I saw beads of sweat begin to form on her suntanned brow. 


“Because. Are you scared?” 


After she let out a deep sigh, threw her hands up to the sky and then back towards the ground, she said with a hesitant, nervous laugh, “No, I just don’t know why we would need a blindfold for a faculty meeting!” 


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Being an elementary school principal for the past thirteen years, I’ve always viewed faculty meetings as an opportunity to engage our staff with lessons that were out of the box, collaborative, and FUN! I know I can’t stand it, when I literally can’t stand because I’m bolted to a seat, in a meeting that lasts hours, so why would I ever expect that from the amazing educators I get to serve daily? While all of the activities I provide at our monthly faculty meetings are geared towards our staff and whatever topic we are diving into that day; data analysis, discussing hot topics in education, or problem solving, my goal is to use an activity that will engage them, making them forget they are spending a contractual hour or two after school, and find a way to make the activity their own and bring it back to their students. 


A successful faculty meeting begins days, sometimes weeks before it actually happens. Like any harvest, the seeds need to be planted and time needs to pass. Two weeks before our back to school faculty meeting was to take place, I sent out our “Welcome Back” email to staff. In it, I mentioned that for our faculty meeting portion of Institute Day One, all staff needed to bring a blindfold, and if someone didn’t bring one, I would provide one. That’s it, nothing more and nothing less to explain. One responsibility for Opening Day, bring your own blindfold. 


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Opening Day for the 24/25 School Year has finally arrived! The day began with our entire district meeting in the middle school gym for an opening address from our superintendent, district admin, and keynote speaker. Throughout the morning, before everything kicked off and everyone was mingling, many staff came up to me and referenced the need for a blindfold. Each time, that sly half-smile would begin to raise towards my right ear. Each time it was brought up, I always responded the same. I would look towards the ground, then slowly lift my head up, stopping when our eyes met and locked. “You’ll see.” 


After a morning together at our district’s middle school, everyone grabbed a box lunch provided from our gracious board of education, and had about an hour to eat and get back to our campus. Once I got back to our building, I sprinted to my office and scarfed down my sandwich and chips like a stray dog who is enjoying their first meal in their newly adopted forever home. As I walked to our LRC (Learning Resource Center) I had a little skip in my step and a smile that reached from ear to ear. I love our faculty meetings. I love the anticipation leading up to them, the fun, friendly tension as everyone tries to come up with their own solution as to what we are going to be doing. 


As staff began to file into the room they were greeted by smiles and a mix of the top ‘90’s alternative hits playing. I noticed that some staff had scarves and headbands, while others had sleeping masks, and yet some had no hint of bringing a blindfold. After running through the welcome back spiel, introduction of new staff, my personal goals for the school year, I stopped, looked over the playing field for my hyped up activity, and asked, “Does everyone have a blindfold?”


Many reluctantly said they did, in which I replied with a puzzled look on my face as my eyebrows resembled Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson’s famous look from the squared circle, “Really, cuz I don’t see everyone having one.” 


At that point, almost everyone that did not have their blindfold in plain sight reached into the deep abyss of their purse, pocket, or portfolio and produced a blindfold. Only two staff admitted they did not have one. That sinister, half smile began rising towards my right ear, and I showed them what I would provide for a blindfold, a white, cotton mask provided by the government when students and staff returned back from the Pandemic. If you’re wondering what it looked like, imagine a female sanitary napkin that can wrap around your ears to be held to your face. One staff member quickly lept from their seat and flew out of the LRC, only to return within seconds with what could be used as a blindfold. 


“Alright, I need everyone to get into the group based on the number of their playing cards. I’ve mixed two decks together so we will have some groups of more than four. Find a table or area your group can get around to work collaboratively. And bring nothing but your blindfold with.” After stating the instructions like the host of a reality game show, I gave staff about 72 seconds to get to their area of their choosing. Once I saw groups claim their space, I walked over and placed a string of yarn on their playing area. Once everyone had their turf, I continued with the instructions. 


“Who has seen the movie Birdbox with Sandra Bullock on Netflix? Can someone who has seen it please give an elevator trailer for those who haven’t?” After being provided the synopsis of Birdbox from one of our social workers, the spotlight was back on me. 

“So what we’re going to do is everyone is going to put their blindfolds on and as a team, I need each group to create a perfect square, a box, while blindfolded. Once you think you have it, get my attention and I will come by to get a picture and assess your progress. Everyone got it? Blindfolds on!  Now go!”


Each group quickly got to work. Some dove right into beginning to create their box, while others talked about their approach and strategy. As I scaffolded the room, checking on everyone’s progress, not one person seemed to be cheating by not using their blindfold correctly. 


The ‘90’s alternative hits were silenced and the air now permeated with laughter. Teamwork was abundant as every group wanted to create the perfect box. Many of the groups called out my name to signify they were complete while others just yelled with laughter. One group all through their hands up into the sky, only to have their box fall apart into a circular-rectangular-squiggly shape. “You don’t have a box anymore once you let go! What were you thinking?” I got out through my own laughter, which only was fuel to enhance theirs louder and heartier. 


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The Birdbox activity served the purpose of creating a fun, engaging, and friendly competitive atmosphere while building teamwork with staff that may not normally work with one another. We also discussed that while every group essentially completed the Birdbox challenge, some had more perfect squares than others, some took longer to reach their end goal, every group took a different approach, and each individual had a crucial role in Birdbox where each team needed to rely on and trust their members. 


When you take the blindfold off it sounds pretty similar to what ingredients lead to a successful classroom. 


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Predictable: Predictable Habits for an Unpredictable Life - 1/29/25

 


The other night, I was reading, for the second go around,
Atomic Habits by James Clear. If you’re not familiar with Clear’s work, especially this book, I highly recommend you pick it up and give it a gander. It’s an easy read, especially for the topic, which discusses our habits, both good and bad, and Clear provides strategies to either help build or eliminate based on our goals. As I was saying, this is my second reading of this book, one of the few books that I will re-read. If you’re wondering why I’m re-reading it, I’ve felt that since my last consumption of it, over two years ago, I have been struggling to build new, positive habits in my life. Atomic Habits helped me in the past and I have no doubts that it will once again. 


As I was reading and highlighting key takeaways, my wife looked over at me and asked, “What are you reading now?” About a week prior, I finished my first book of 2025, Fight Club, by Chuck Palahniuk. Fight Club is another book I have re-read. In fact, for the past five years, it has been the very book I read to kick off each new year. I look over my left shoulder, holding my blue highlighter between the index and middle finger in my right hand like a cigarette, and respond, “Atomic Habits. It’s about strategies to build positive habits and eliminate bad ones.” With her book resting on her lap, she slowly began turning her head to look forward, away from me, picks up her book, shakes her head and says, “Didn’t you already read that? You’re so predictable,” and continued to bury herself back into her book. 


I’ve contemplated this comment, “You’re so predictable,” for the past few days and realized that is exactly what I want with what goals I’m striving for. In order to build positive habits, we need to be predictable. Some may feel that being predictable leads to a boring life, no spontaneity, but I disagree. I feel that being predictable is a key ingredient for an exciting life, a life made of crushing goals and living in what many only have as dreams. 


James Clear obviously says it much better than me, he is the “Habit Expert,” but basically, creating positive habits won’t happen by simply wishing them into existence. We can say all we want of what we want to do, what we want to accomplish, but unless we put the work forth those wants are just daydreams. Positive habits need to be built into our lives with cues, support, a shift in mindset, and habit stacking. Again, I’m not going to try and explain the process and benefits of Atomic Habits, so please pick up the book and give it a read yourself, you won’t be disappointed. 


By being predictable, I know what habits throughout my day are going to happen. These are habits that I have put in place to reach the goals I have set for myself. Here’s a rough breakdown of a perfect day implementing my habits: 


5:00 Am Wakeup

Hydrate

Coffee

Prayer

Daily Stoic

Journal/reflection

Minimum 30 minutes of movement (lifting, running, or cycling)

Visit 3 classrooms

Complete tasks on my 3 item “To Do” list

Family time

Read

Sleep


These are the non-negotiables that I strive to get done each and every day. Of course, not every day is perfect, but there are definitely more days than not that I accomplish each habit. For the days that I don’t, tomorrow is a new day and I work to be 1% better than the day before. 


Being an elementary principal, husband, and father of a 13 and 16 year old, the times in between my habits are far from predictable. It’s the predictability of my daily habits that keep me grounded, focused, and working towards my goals and prepare me to take on all of the unpredictability of my predictable life. 


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Start Today - 12/30/24

 



It has been some time since I’ve sat down and put my thoughts to paper, well screen, in the form of a blog. To be honest, it’s been 270 days. I wish I had some great explanation as to why I haven’t been writing. Why I wrote two blogs within two days of each other, submitted one to Teach Better, Time for an Upgrade, and then just sat on the other. The only reasoning I can muster up as to why I haven’t been doing one of my favorite forms of self-care is because I just haven’t been disciplined. Like with any habit, good or bad, the less it is practiced the less it becomes a staple of our lives. That is going to be my goal for 2025: building habits through discipline as to what brings me joy, peace, happiness, and a clear mind. 2025 is going to not only be the year that I get back to being me, but transforming into a new me, the me that I know I can, and should have been, all this time.

Now I know what you’re thinking, I sound like every hopeful individual setting lofty goals for the New Year. I don’t disagree, I do. And you’re thinking, I probably make goals like this this time of year EVERY year, and if they stuck, I wouldn’t be setting the same, or similar goals, every year. And again, you’re correct. But the difference this time, this year, is my mindset. I’m fed up with not doing what makes me happy. I’m exhausted with feeling exhausted, pretending to take care of myself when it’s not even coming close to 70% of the time. I’m done with not living up to my potential and setting a better example for my kids. I’m done with the old Mike, the Mike that has spent the past 44 years half-assing his way through life, getting lucky with giving nearly 70% and reaching some goals. It’s time to be 1% better every day. The boring, disciplined habits, day in and day out, are what are going to lead to goals not only being met, but crushed!

As you can probably figure out from context clues, one of these goals is to get back to blogging. Blogging has always been something I loved, a way to express myself and get my thoughts, feelings, and heart out there. Whether it has to do with topics in education, family issues, running, or just life in general, blogging has always provided me comfort and has been a drug to clear my mind. Like I said earlier, it’s time to not only find myself again, but to sculpt the new and improved me. I appreciate your support and helping to keep me accountable on this journey.

I stopped setting resolutions years ago. I had adopted the “One Word” approach for a few years and then a mantra, where one would find a few words out of a word search-like picture, and those words became the ones to live the year by. You can read or listen to my previous words below.

2019 - BELIEVE

2020 - WATER

2021 - PRISM

2023 - MANTRA (blog)

2023 - MANTRA (podcast)

This year the four words that I found first were, STRENGTH, MONEY, ALIGNMENT, MIRACLES. I was pretty pleased with these words and felt that they suited myself, and my goals, perfectly. So what I’ve decided to do is create four separate blogs, each blog focusing on one of these words. This will be me diving back into the world of blogging, something that I can already feel a weight being lifted off of my shoulders and a fog clearing in my mind as I write this one!

To wrap this one up, our intro, I mentioned before that while this looks and sounds like so many others who dive into the New Year with a candle burning bright, only to have it fizzle out a few weeks later, this isn’t a New Year thing. It just happens to be that time of year. Instead, this is a “it’s been long overdue to make a change to reach your full potential” thing. Hence why we’re starting today, Monday, December 30, 2024.

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